Cherish Your Strong Black Woman beyond Lovers’ Day
DO LOVE: 31 Nonsexual Ways to Cherish Your Partner This Lovers’ Day
At Feelnubia, we believe love isn’t just something you feel—it’s something you do.
It’s expressed in gentle words, patient acts, and the small moments that build intimacy over time.
So, this Lovers’ Day, don’t just say “I love you”, show it in the nonsexual, soul-deep ways that truly speak her language. No strings. No expectations. Just the quiet power of doing love daily.
1. Morning Kiss or Note of Kindness
Start her day with warmth. Kiss her forehead, whisper a blessing, or write a note like, “You’re my sunshine.” These simple gestures remind her that she is deeply loved and cherished, even when the day hasn’t begun.
2. Hold Her Hand While Driving
As you drive, reach for her hand. It’s a symbolic and tender way to say, “We’re in this together.” That physical connection strengthens emotional security.
3. Sticky Notes of Devotion
Leave love notes in unexpected places: her mirror, her bag, or her book. Use playful words, inside jokes, or tender compliments to brighten her routine.
4. Midday “I See You” Call
Surprise her with a midday call just to say, “I appreciate you.” Not to ask for anything—just to offer gratitude.
5. Sacrifice the Tickets
Give her tickets to an event she loves, even if it means not going with her. Let her know her joy and friendships matter.
6. A Day Without Criticism
Be intentional about noticing the positive. Swap judgment for admiration. Say, “I love how you handled that situation today.”
7. Sleep at the Same Time
Climb into bed together. Read. Talk. Laugh. Revisit the intimacy of shared routines without screens or distractions.
8. Brush Her Hair
Gently run a brush through her hair. This quiet act can be deeply nurturing and calming. Compliment her beauty as you do.
9. The Mirror Moment
Catch her by surprise as she looks in the mirror. Wrap your arms around her, kiss her neck, and say, “You are stunning.”
10. Remove the Distractions
Disconnect the TV and remove it from the bedroom. Tell her, “I want to hear your voice instead.” Create a space for genuine conversation.
11. Afternoon Check-In
Send a message during the day asking, “How’s your day going, love?” Let her know she’s on your mind.
12. Make Breakfast
Wake up early and make her breakfast. Add a little flower on the tray or serve it in bed. Say, “You deserve a slow morning.”
13. Clean Her Car
Surprise her by filling up her gas, vacuuming her car, and cleaning the windows. Leave a heartwarming note on the dashboard.
14. Write a Love Letter
Take time to reflect. Write a letter listing how she’s blessed you this year—her sacrifices, strengths, and your admiration.
15. Be a Gentleman Again
Reignite romance through chivalry. Open doors. Pull out chairs. Offer your coat. Let her feel courted and seen.
16. Laundry Tag-Team
Step in when she’s doing laundry. Offer to help or fold alongside her. It’s not about chores, it’s about partnership.
17. Bathroom Etiquette
It may seem small, but putting the seat down and washing your hands speaks volumes. Respect shows up in the details.
18. Invite Her for a Walk
Block out the noise and invite her for a walk. Ask questions. Listen. Hold hands. Let her feel heard and valued.
19. Affirm Her Strength
When she navigates conflict or stress with grace, acknowledge it. Say, “I admire how you handled that call.”
20. Pray With Her
Start a daily prayer together. Thank God for her life. Ask for strength together. It’s a powerful spiritual glue.
21. Thank Her After Every Meal
Even if it’s leftovers, say thank you. Let her know her effort to feed you is seen and appreciated.
22. Honour Her Growth
If she’s working on a personal struggle, celebrate her effort. Say, “I see how hard you’re trying, and I’m proud of you.”
23. Appreciate the Invisible Work
Acknowledge the tasks no one notices. Say thank you for the laundry, the dishes, and the clean spaces.
24. Use This Phrase Daily
Say, “I love the way you ______.” Fill in the blank with something specific that you appreciate about her: “listen to our kids,” “smile when you’re tired,” etc.
25. Say Thanks for the Little Things
Whether it’s dry cleaning or folded shirts, show appreciation. Gratitude fuels love.
26. Cuddle Before You Leave
Linger a little longer in bed. Wrap your arms around her. Whisper, “I wish I didn’t have to leave.”
27. Let Her Choose Dinner
After a long day, let her pick the restaurant or meal. Say, “You deserve to choose today.”
28. Brag About Her in Public
Let her hear you celebrate her gifts. Tell your friends and family what you find amazing about her. Tell her family and friends too.
29. Affirm Her After Intimacy
The next morning, affirm your closeness. Say how much it meant to connect deeply with her.
30. Praise Her to the Kids
In front of the children, speak highly of her. Say, “Aren’t we lucky to have the best mom?”
31. Be Part of Bedtime
Finally, help her get the kids to bed. Brush teeth, read stories, say prayers. It’s about shared presence, not just parenting.
Love Is a Daily Choice
True romance is built in the ordinary moments. The unscripted acts. The quiet affirmations. This Lovers’ Day, don’t just feel love, do love.
Let your partner know, through small gestures and a big heart, that she is cherished, valued, and deeply loved.
Because real love lives not in the grand gestures, but in the everyday acts that say: “You matter.”
Source: FamilyLife.com
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