When A Man Finds a Wife… He Obtains Favor From the Lord
favour
/ˈfeɪvə/
- noun
approval, support, or liking for someone or something.
Similar:
approval, approbation, commendation, esteem, goodwill, kindness, benevolence - verb
an act of kindness beyond what is due or usual.
Similar:
good turn, service, kind act, good deed, act of kindness, courtesy, indulgence, benefit, boon
From the foregoing, we see that favor is both a noun and a verb. The favor that a wife brings into her husband’s life is not passive. It is not a feeling. Like love, it is an active, intentional act of sowing that leads to a great harvest. There are however many things competing for the investment of that favor and it takes a circumspect heart to recognize what is real from what is not.
A wife carrying the seed of favor may be tempted to sow it in her children, or to invest it in herself. Like the blessing of Abraham, there is just one seed of favor. Abraham entreated the Lord to give the blessing to Ishmael. The Lord would not have it. It was reserved for the fruit of the covenant relationship: the son of Sarah, Isaac. Isaac in turn, gave the blessing to Jacob rather than Esau for whom he actually intended it.
“When Esau heard his father’s words, he let out a loud and bitter cry. “Oh my father, what about me? Bless me, too!” he begged. But Isaac said, “Your brother was here, and he tricked me. He has taken away your blessing.” – Genesis 27:34-35 NLT
If a wife in a fit of anger (perhaps justifiably so at the time, on account of her husband’s betrayal, ill-treatment etc), or error, decides to sow her seed of favor in another ground: her children, her siblings, her parents, friends, or herself…, there is nothing more precious that she can give to her husband to replace that seed of favor. No greater loss can be suffered by a husband, than to lose his wife’s favor.
A wife may have begun to sow her seed of favor in her husband but becoming weary of waiting for a delayed harvest, she could go back, dig it up and sow it somewhere else. This can have disastrous consequences that can be likened to flying high up into the sky and then jumping out without a parachute. Lofty endeavors that were started when the favor of his wife was intact will often crash land once the favor is taken away from her husband. There is hardly a way to land safely. Hence, every wife as a faithful helpmeet on assignment from God, must be sensitive and obedient to the Spirit of God to know how to engage her seed of favor and sow it in the one to whom she was meant to deliver it.
The price that a wife pays to activate the favor on her life for her husband’s endeavors is therefore often, stillness. Obeying God is prefaced with holding still to hear the instruction clearly. Holding back when all you want to do is step in to help as you see fit, Yet we honor God best when we sow the seed for our husband’s greatness in the right soil at the right time, in the right measure and with the right spirit.
It’s a sacrifice. It is an honor. It is a privilege to be a co-laborer with God in birthing the purpose and destiny in the one to whom you are called to be a help meet.
No tree eats its own fruit. Wife, sow the seed of your favor in the soil God intended it to be planted: in your husband. The harvest will be great and it will be yours as much as it will be his, that of your progeny, your generation and the kingdom as well.
Happy sowing, Wives! – EDEN MANDATE 03072023
